Okay. I’m going to take a deep breath before tackling this one.
I have reached the conclusion that the Arab world and the Western world don’t understand each other. This is no more evident than in the treatment of women or, more accurately, how the treatment of women is perceived by other cultures.
To oversimplify a touch, the West believes that Arab and/or Muslim countries oppress women by forcing them to cover themselves up. Meanwhile, the Arab world believes that Western and/or Christian countries oppress women by encouraging or expecting women to dress indecently and present themselves as mere objects for sexual desire.
Now, I’ll tackle the first of these misconceptions first. On the basis of conversations I’ve had with women in Nablus, many of whom I would now consider good friends (in addition, the vast majority of the participants in the classes and workshops I’ve been running have been adult women), it seems that the majority of women choose to wear a hijab as an important part of their identity as Muslim women. A small minority choose not to wear a hijab and, from what I can tell, this isn’t seen as a big deal by most people. An even smaller minority wear a burqa. In addition, women dress much more conservatively than back home (or in Tel Aviv for that matter). Again, this is in keeping with their religion and, while expected by society, is still done through choice.
(I should qualify the above by saying that if a woman did feel uncomfortable wearing a hijab and felt that pressure was put on them by their husband or family, it is unlikely that they would speak to me, as a man, about this.)
Western women, on the other hand, dress mostly in a more liberal manner. In increasingly secular societies, there are few restrictions placed on how women dress by religion. While Western countries are often more permissive, the vast majority of men (although sadly not all) treat women with nothing other than respect. In fact, treating women with respect is something that is hugely important in the majority of Western and Arab cultures.
However, the other day I was sitting in the volunteers’ apartment flicking television channels, and finally settled on the MTV European Music Awards. It would be good to watch the sort of telly I would get back home, I thought to myself. The awards show included Eva Longoria, Katy Perry, Miley Cyrus and Kelly Brook, among others. Watching this after being in Palestine for two months, it was shocking how these women were presented. Every one of these women was presented as nothing other than a sex object. (At one particularly moment, Katy Perry ripped off some of Eva Longoria’s clothes for no reason at all.) Given film and television is the main way in which Arabs are exposed to Western culture, it wasn’t hard to see where some of their misconceptions come from.
I know women have not yet achieved full equality, either in the West or in the Arab world (both have active feminist movements, although these often have different priorities), but I'm just trying to illustrate the point that it is important not to judge other people’s cultures unless you are willing to take a critical look at your own culture and your own society.
Reading over the above, there are a few generalisations. I am failing to mention Muslim communities in the West and it is important to acknowledge how cultures and gender politics can vary widely between different Western countries and between different Arab countries, but I hope you get the point I’m trying to make.
This has been a long post, but count yourself lucky I haven’t gone on a rant about Sex and the City 2’s depiction of Arab women.
And... breathe.